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One Secret Every Woman Trying to Lose Weight Should Know

 

one secret every woman trying to lose weight should know

 

Jamming food in your mouth, in the car, scrambling to get to your appointment on time.  Feeling panicked.

 

Finally getting home, STARVING  (went too long without eating) – devouring chips, Cheez-Its, peanut butter, grapes – or whatever the heck is around. Aftermath = feeling pretty gross.

 

Pushing your body to workout because you despise your “big, stubby thighs.” Not because you love your body and want to feel vibrant, energetic, and strong. Feeling like you want to flip that switch.

 

Realizing some of the things and people in your life,  make you feel bad, not good enough and unimportant.  Feeling like you’re ready for a change.

 

Discovering that you’re your own worst critic. You’d  never speak to anyone else like you do yourself. Feeling it’s time to turn this around.

 

All of the above? Observations. 

Observations without judgment that is.

 

Observations I’ve had about myself at one point or another.

But, instead of getting all down and out on myself, I let them guide me for change.

YOU can do this too.

 

You see, observations aren’t something to beat yourself up about. They’re not something to use as “ammo” against yourself.

I ate horribly yesterday. I’m disgusting. What’s wrong with me??! Why can everyone else do it, but I can’t?!

 

Observations are insights that enable you to make changes in your life.

Huh, ok, I ate really poorly yesterday. What was going on that made that happen? At least I see my body really can’t handle that kind of food. And I learned for next time that keeping my food journal and tuning-in to how hungry I am beforehand really is important for me. I’ll do more of that.

 

You can’t move forward without knowing what it is that you want changed.

If  you stop picking yourself apart, you give yourself a chance to get to know YOU – what you like, what you don’t like; what you love about you, what things you want to make better. Flipping the switch from judgmental to observational opens the possibility for massive change.

You may not always like what you learn, but hey – at least you got there. You’re able to look inside yourself and have deep realizations about what you need to feel good in your body and love yourself. That’s huge. Some people never get there.

 

Snap yourself out of the I suck, I’m stuck place with the mantra: observation is key for change.

Grow into it. Own it. Thank yourself for it.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve  walked around saying this to myself, really.

 

And start to look at things in this new light of:

Oh, when I do this, I think, feel or react this way. Now, do I like that?  Does that make me feel good? Does it support me towards my wellness goals?

 

Stop looking at things from the mindset of : 

Oh, I did this and failed again … I’m awful. What’s wrong with me? I can never change. I don’t deserve to be happy, healthy, or love my body.

 

Pull yourself out of judgement (why you gonna go all mean girl on yourself?) and put yourself in observation mode.

 

To do that, ask yourself these 3-questions:

1. How did that situation make me feel?

2. What did I appreciate about it?

3. What’s the most important takeaway for next time?

 

After you’ve collected that info: Do more of what makes you feel good and remove yourself from what makes you feel bad.

Yup, it sounds easier said than done. But, once you start standing up for yourself and being kind to yourself, you can radically switch to doing more of the good-for-YOU stuff (journaling, supportive friends, moving your body, really  making time to eat your meals, etc) and less of the other stuff that makes you feel crappy (setting no work-life boundaries, eating nutella mindlessly out of the jar, socializing with people who don’t make you feel good, saying really mean things to the beautiful person you are, etc).

But, you can’t do this without observation!

 

Observation without judgement  allows you to deeply understand what people, activities and things  support your goals and make you feel good. On the flip side, it allows you to see who and what doesn’t support your goals and makes you feel bad.

 

The cool thing is that through this process, you gain the power to do more of the things that make you feel healthy, happy, and vibrant and cut out the other stuff that doesn’t.

I do the observation technique all the time. It’s a total game -changer.

Try it.

And remember, be nicer to yourself. You really do deserve it;)

xo

Corinne

 

I’d love to hear from YOU! Do you ever find yourself judgmentally observing?? If so, how do you snap yourself out of it?

 


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16 responses to “One Secret Every Woman Trying to Lose Weight Should Know”

  1. Lauren says:

    Observation IS a total game-changer! The judgment still comes up, and being able to observe why those judgments are popping up is the amazing part. Journaling about it always helps me understand what’s going on. Great post 🙂

    • cdobbas says:

      Love, love, love that outlook Lauren! Soooo true 😉 The “why” is also key and journaling is such a huge player in discovering that! Thanks for reading! xx

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  3. Toni says:

    Thank you for reminding me to be kinder to myself. … 🙂

  4. I totally agree. Observation has been a game-changer for me. Checking in and asking questions is empowering! Thanks for the post.. I always love them.

  5. Allie says:

    I just discovered you a few days ago, and I am hooked. Thank you for existing and putting your knowledge out there for us! I feel great changes headed my way and I love love love reading your blog. Thank you!!!!!!! 🙂

    • cdobbas says:

      Allie, your comment literally made my day! Thank YOU sooo much! I’m happy you found me too! lots of love! xx

  6. elise says:

    Wow great words, so loving and honest. You really got me reading the whole page. Thanks for sharing, showing me how to look at myself.

    • cdobbas says:

      Thank you, Elise! I’m glad the words on the page were helpful:) we all need boosts and insights for the soul! thanks for reading xx

  7. Hi Corinne,
    Your sister has a point! Great article.
    For my journey in transitioning from judgement to observation, if I ever slip back into being harsh and cruel to myself, I remember how much worse it felt when I allowed myself to persistently think in that manner.
    I observe that that is not how I want to think/be/feel. I tell myself how wonderful I am and am grateful for my health and my able body because not everyone has a healthy and able body. I find it helpful to put worthless critiques into perspective. If people could hear what I say to myself internally they’d think I am very arrogant but, hey, it takes a lot of work to find the confidence to tell yourself you are great and it takes further work to believe it and continuous attention to remember it! So if I can do all of that then I am great! And so is everyone else! And you! So thank you for your wise words.
    Have a wonderful weekend, Hannah Xx

    • cdobbas says:

      Hannah, your response is beautiful! It does take A LOT to find confidence and even more to believe it! It takes work! But, it’s worth it, as we both know;) Thanks for sharing your perfect words! xx

  8. Loved this post Corinne! This is my first time here, your blog is beautiful! To answer your question, when I catch myself being judgmental of myself, I try to instantly replace the negative thought with a positive one. I find that just telling myself that “I shouldn’t be thinking negatively” doesn’t help. I need to replace the thought with another one 🙂 xx, Kristel

  9. Tammy says:

    Great post! The way we feel about something has a HUGE impact on how we act or carry out a task. Taking the time to learn how to coach ourselves in a positive way rather than bash ourselves can keep us moving in the right direction. It was my new years resolution to start changing my mindset about myself and guess what….now I’m seeing positive results. Even on the scale 🙂

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