Some Loving Inspiration
When I was 16, I wanted to work at this restaurant called Java Grill. It was a burrito joint that did burgers, smoothies, and coffee drinks. It was a seat yourself, grab your food behind the counter kind of place. It was about a 20 minute walk from my house and I could get tips. I wanted a job and I wanted my own money. So, one random summer day, I went in and applied to be a counter person. Right after I handed in my application, I was told ...
A few years ago, the man I thought I’d marry, dumped me like a hot pancake. One unexpected night, he shared the news with me at our kitchen table that he was no longer in love and the next morning he was gone. I wouldn’t see him again until a month or so later when we overlapped briefly in our moving out schedules with a heartfelt, tear-felt “goodbye.” I had thought I was (hands raised, pumping with joy in the air) forever done with dating. After this scenario, that just ...
What do you tell yourself? One of the first things I have new clients do is start paying attention to their thoughts about themselves and their body. How often are you assuming or making up stories? Would you talk to your daughter, sister or mother the way you talk to yourself? When you 1st start tuning-in to the thoughts and stories you’re telling yourself – it can be exhausting and super scary. THIS is part of the process. Remember, you can’t really tackle something unless you’re aware of it. And ...
I just finished up my 12th move in the last 13 years. Crazy. But beautiful at the same time. It’s a running joke in my family that my cat has moved more than most people. Some moves were for love. Some were for education. Some were for heartbreak. Some were for a change of city. And some were just for moving on. What each move has taught me is how to let go of what was and enjoy the new now. Resiliency so to speak. It’s this resiliency – ...
The other day I was sitting at my desk. Fuzzy socks on. Sweats rolled up. Giant coffee mugs everywhere. Notebooks open. Curly hair piled high … Thinking. No – that’s a lie – I was more like on the verge of overwhelm… But with a brief meditation session and the words from a past mentor ringing in my brain – don’t get lost in your goal, focus on your actions – I brought myself back down to a grounded space. With those words, I flipped myself around like a hot ...
Yesterday, I was talking to my dad on the phone. Deep in conversation (our conversations are more like mutual therapy sessions), he says something along the lines of, “No parent ever tells their kid when they’re little, ‘Welcome to the world, life is going to be hard.’ But that’s the fact of the matter. You’re going to have peaks, and you’re going to have valleys and the hope is that your peaks are more often than your valleys. But they’re both a part of life.” I pause, waiting. I ...
How do you know you’re changing and growing for the better? Well, the first key to noticing any of your growth is self-reflection. It’s through self-reflection that we have the ability to recognize our growth. And it is in stillness that we discover our dreams, our visions, and our very own being. Because to put it quite frankly, if you never pause to notice where you’ve been or where you’re going, but most importantly where you are, you will miss the most important piece to self-discovery – stillness. You ...
Peanut butter used to be my “vice.” I always wanted it, but never let myself have it. At the time, it just didn’t fit into my self-imposed diet plan. It was too high-calorie. Too small of a portion size. Too much fat. During my time in-between undergrad and grad school, I used to waitress and bartend at the Harvard Club. Bartending always threw me for a loop because I never knew any of the drinks customers were ordering. If it wasn’t wine or a martini … I’d be asking the ...
The night that I went to the gym to work off a 100-calorie pack of pretzels was the night I realized I was in deep and something needed to change. There had to be a different way. I could begin learning to love and accept myself and fuel myself properly with not only good nutrition, but self-love, self-kindness, and compassion, or I could carry on like this – a slave to the number on the scale who was miserable, despite having arrived at her “goal” weight. Thus, my journey began ...
I’ve literally spent years working on becoming comfortable speaking my truth. Telling a friend I didn’t like the way their actions made me feel. Voicing to a boyfriend that his comment really made me feel unwanted. Speaking up about frustrations at work with no sense of fear or concern – just raw, total, and utter honesty. Is this something that comes naturally? No. At least not for me. It’s something I practice. Something I show up for. Because now that I’ve done it – I know there’s no going back ...
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