Some Loving Inspiration
So often I hear shame, frustration, guilt, anger, resentment, and sometimes a deep sense of hopelessness about food being the enemy from my kind, caring, compassionate clients – and I get it – I’ve been there. It’s not a fun place to be in. In fact, it sucks. But today, I want to ask you to open your mind and be willing to shift your perspective. You with me? Because what I’m about to tell you may be very different from everything you’ve ever been told. But hang with me… ...
After giving a talk, someone asked me how to keep their energetic boundaries. Basically, how to not take on others’ pain, anger, resentment, pessimistic outlook on life, or really, whatever negative mojo is running through them. This is a key question because when we do take on others’ “stuff,” we’re way more likely to be living in a burnt out, overwhelmed, and disconnected space. And it’s in this space that we ignore our true wants and desires and give into the quick fix, to numb or to ...
Do you have doubts and fears? Have you ever failed? Has the thought, “Am I good enough?” ever crossed your mind? YES? Good. That means you’re trying. That you’re showing up. That you’re putting yourself out there. That also means that you’re a human being having a human experience. More importantly … it means you’re not alone. Life is our biggest teacher. I always remind my clients that “the work” really happens in-between our sessions. When the totally unexpected happens. When the uncomfortable occurs. When an important decision ...
I talk about “choosing love over fear” a lot. In fact, these words make up one of my favorite daily mantras: I choose to let love in and fear out. It wasn’t always like this though. Before I was ready to dig deep and really look at (or even be aware of) how my inner world shaped my outer world, I would have thought you were a little nutty, if you told me to “choose love over fear.” Today, however, choosing love over fear is an integral (grounding) ...
The holidays can bring up a lot of funky feelings – from lack to fear of gaining weight (how many articles do we need to see about beating holiday weight gain?) to overwhelm. Lack, fear, and overwhelm – a sure-fire mix to feel not good enough, not thin enough, and getting weird with our food – whether that be overeating, skipping meals and snacks, creating a bunch of food rules that keep us stuck, or eating for comfort. I’ve been there. It’s painful. It hurts. And it leaves ...
In this fun interview, I’m sharing how I live on purpose in support of my friend Dr. Danielle Dowling and her new book The Soul Sessions, a 5-week guide to crafting greater joy and making big things happen. Get a free sample here ! How do you let go of the chase for perfection? By remembering that there’s no such thing as perfect. And that once you get to that “perfect place” there’s always another “perfect” you want to get to. The cycle is never ending. It’s the ...
Growing up, I always wanted everyone to like me. As a tween, before going to bed, I’d think about all my good friends – I had about 4 or 5 – and I’d go around quickly in my mind making sure “we were good.” Had I said anything to hurt their feelings? Did they sound happy to talk to me on the phone? Did my different opinion make them upset? From a very young age, I feared speaking my opinion; honoring my truth; and voicing my feelings when ...
In my teens and most of my early twenties , I used to be totally weird with food. I had all these rules. I had to eat this for lunch, only this many calories for a snack, and if I ate too much, I’d “work it off” the next day in the gym. The worst part though was the games I’d play. I’d deprive, deprive, deprive to stick to “the plan” and then by the time I got around what I really wanted – I’d pig out. One of ...
In kindergarten, our class bully would sit behind me and pull out my hair tie – daily – just like clockwork. Leaving my French braid, side ponytail, or occasional half-up, half-down look to become unraveled. Throughout grade school, I was teased. I was somewhat chunky and just did my own thing. The teasing never bothered me, odd enough. In middle school and early high school, my “care-free, I-like-me attitude,” attracted friends. And as always, I was happy with who I was and what I looked like. It wasn’t until later ...
Jamming food in your mouth, in the car, scrambling to get to your appointment on time. Feeling panicked. Finally getting home, STARVING (went too long without eating) – devouring chips, Cheez-Its, peanut butter, grapes – or whatever the heck is around. Aftermath = feeling pretty gross. Pushing your body to workout because you despise your “big, stubby thighs.” Not because you love your body and want to feel vibrant, energetic, and strong. Feeling like you want to flip that switch. Realizing some of the things and people in ...
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