My husband and I were on the couch the other night watching This is Us.
During one of the scenes with all the school-aged kids, “the big three,” my husband looked at me and said, “Is that what you were like with your friends as a kid?”
He said it in this cute, playful tone.
I paused, smiled, and casually said, “No, I didn’t really have any school friends until I was in the sixth grade.”
I didn’t realize how sad that sounded until it came out of my mouth and he said, “Awwww.”
But, it’s true.
During school, I just did my own thing and then would come home and play with my best friend who lived next door and my sister.
I was never part of the “cool” kids.
It’s likely for this reason that to this day, I’m a proud full-fledged supporter of the underdog.
What’s crazy to me is that now, as an adult, and as a business owner and coach, I’m seeing some of this “cool kid” group behavior online.
And what happens?
Business owners end up in the compare and despair camp.
Clients feel like like there’s something wrong with them, if they haven’t had an overnight transformation. Like all those being touted online.
And people generally, across the board, are suffering from low self-esteem and poor mental health.
Wherever you are in this camp – and if you’re not anywhere near this camp awesome (please ignore me). BUT … If you’re at all near this camp, please remember the following things.
1. What you see on social media (or online) isn’t real life.
2. Everyone – and I mean – everyone has problems, insecurities, doubts & fears.
3. Most “overnight” successes are 10-plus years in the making.
4. The only person who knows what’s best for you is you.
5. You have the power to make a difference – you really do.
6. The people you want in your life will lift you up, not pull you down.
7. You are not alone.
8. You are here reading this message for a reason.
9. Keep going.
10. And be kind to yourself along the way.
On that note, to all my fellow once “underdogs,” you’re some of my favorite people. I salute you with my tea mug. I hope you salute yourself too:)
p.s. there is no such thing as the “cool kids.” I don’t care what age you are. There are only those who think they’re cool. And guess what? It’s a mindset shift. You can be “cool” – or kind-hearted or amazing or totally awesome too. Believe it and you’ll see it. And if you ask me, since you’re here, I think you’re all that + a bag of chips xxo